Are you a cheater? (laugh) those two people who voted infidelity, whatever makes you happy I suppose. Let me recap, humans are both monogamous and animals by primordial instincts, it’s not a given. I guess it is up to how you’ve been raised to understand what is right and what is wrong and comes down to how badly affected you are by this materialistic world, and the attitude you portray and perceive to be correct. Now straight onto my next, long-awaited topic, Restraint.
Is there such a thing as too many choices? When we are faced with an abundance of choices, there is little room to be able to identify which choices can offer goodness, vice versa. Then there are some in which turn our heads and one must restrain one self and proceed with caution. To know that we are thrown into a world of endless choices, where decision-making for the stability and happiness in life is where it counts most, an attribute one must require learning at the youngest of age for the common goal to grow into a wise and knowledgeable adult.
Development and Restraint are two peas in a growth pod (laugh) it’s how we learnt when restraints were put on us as a kid, ultimately teaching us that there are rules, standard guidelines to follow, when bed time was, or you must brush your teeth before bedtime, (which was a must and not an option). And if one chose to do otherwise would get in trouble, it’s no different now. You know it’s an important option/choice/decision to make, you know the consequences behind making that choice, and yet you choose to either act upon it or not.
Choosing for one self, choosing for others, when do we know when not to take things for granted? There are third world countries who have nothing more than just the tiny miniscule of options offered and yet they’re happy, live by and don’t complain, so that makes us completely idiocy, sorry (covers mouth) Did I call you a retard and myself for that matter (laugh) I sure did.
We are lucky to even have such options, the option to drink clean water, to treat ourselves to a professional doctor, the option to live under shelved and walled houses with hot, cold water and let alone cooked food. Might I add in protection by our family members… We have it all, but we want more, we’re greedy and I blame it on the narcissist way of thinking, that we need everything because we try and pretend we have nothing, that we don’t have any clothes, that we don’t have enough computer technology devices to arouse our minds, don’t have enough houses so let’s just knock down the whole forest… You get my point. This greed does nothing but harm to others and everything around us makes us become monsters when we aren’t.
At this point you may be getting tired of reading, so take a break, invigorate yourself by watching this short clip of Chastity (Exclusion or moderation of the indulgences of the sexual appetite).
Welcome back, I hope you are reenergized and know a bit more about Chastity. Now you can understand what I will be saying from now on.
The challenge for us is to vision that having excess in our lives isn’t the best, “Quality over quantity,” is what the righteous mind would follow. The virtue that involves restraint shows one true’s value to one self, to moderate their own needs in pursuit of one’s happiness. We learn that often, our lack of restraint is promoted under the guise of individualism or privacy, conditions that increase our options by allowing us to do what we want, when we want to. By this I mean, the interest of one individual is the interest of one being, we tend to carry out certain activities for the interest of our own concerns, self-serving, and to them could be an action that results in happiness. But there has to be an “understanding of the wise and often limited use of options—ever-expanding choice becomes a “tyranny of freedom,” Such acts include spending too much time on computer/TV or unimportant, to fill in the void of one’s empty life. Many psychologists blame such growing social isolation for the epidemic of depression. (Please I know there are face book addicts out there (laugh at them and myself as well) get out and start doing something productive!)
We also know there is a world out there, not just our own being with our own interests, but thousands of beings with thousands of interest. Sometimes, an opportunity arises, and we take too much, and give less in return. How can we learn that we need to stop grabbing at them vigorously, be awake and be aware and conscientious to the choices and the consequences that follow. And how does this apply or relate to dating?
You see when someone restrains from someone else, will show the person to face the conviction of one’s life without the other. It will show oneself their false hope misconceived as a shared reality. Deep down, when we realize their restraints, we deny, it’s one of our narcissist characteristics. We need to face reality and know that if they made these restraints, we need to be the bigger person and count the losses. We need self-control to make the choices, if they’re unable to face up and do so. That decision will turn out as the right choice in the long-term, as most people realise.
Ultimately, by having one option or limiting our choices down arduously, can be the answer to one’s happiness. Don’t be afraid to take risks “DON’T LET FEAR GOVERN YOUR LIFE!” yet don’t over indulge, don’t let all the choices consume you. Take action, practice to set restraints, maybe it may seem a big sacrifice now; ultimately it will be the answer to long-term happiness.
In my next blog, Generosity will be discussed. Thanks for reading, please leave me your opinions. Thanks and much appreciation.
ITYAS
This is the serious side of Yennie that I was never able to perceive through her videos on Youtube. I really like how you have given this serious and critical examination and openly discuss it.
I was a little bit confused on the “clean water” part before the video, but then it all made sense.
I agree that restraint is good such as the restraining oneself from cheating to restraining oneself from over indulging. Although, I do believe some recklessness sometimes is good too or in other words spontaneity and impulsiveness.
What does “ITYAS” mean?
Well that’s my goal kowae, to openly discuss with people who want too, who have given it thought and got something out of my post. Thanks for your input. ITYAS – I’ll tell you a secret